It is definitely OK if you spend a lot of time reminiscing about the past and thinking about the past and looking back the ways things used to be is not bad.
We use to live in the past because it is familiar, we are aware of what has really happened. You might experienced watching your old favorite movies or sitcoms over and over again.
When we share memories for many reasons and one of which is to strengthen shared connection, offer symphathy and elicit support. Talking about the past also helps create and maintain our individual and shared identities. We know ourselves whether it maybe as individuals, groups or communities as memories provides a database of evidence for events we have experienced and what they mean to us.
According to Nick Mcdermott as provided in the dailymail.co.uk website, individuals who are nostalgic about their earlier lives also have a more positive outlook over the years to come, a study has found. The findings suggests that recalling especially happy memories improves your sense of wellbeing. It raises self-esteem, which in turn heigtens optimism. It may help maintain current feelings of self-worth and can contribute to a brighter outlook on the future.
But for some living in the past is a problem because it robs you of the opportunity to enjoy the present. If you are not happy where you are, living in the past won’t help. As they say, living in the past allows you to avoid dealing with issues in the present. Conversations about the past often require some degree of negotiation. Many studies highlight the value of collaborating in recall. That is, giving everyone a voice rather than letting one narrator dominate; particularly one voice that narrates other people’s memories as well as their own.
While some people live in the past because they don’t want to deal with the present, others live in the past for fear of what may come in the future. Just like watching your old favorite movie 50 times over, looking back on your life does not always bring any surprises. Even if some of the past is not good, it is, at least, predictable.
Reminiscing shows how we talk about the past with loved ones that counts, whoever they are, try to share on of the best and unique gifts of all, the gift of memory stories.